“If you lack the iron and the fizz to take control of your own life, then the gods will repay your weakness by having a grin or two at your expense. Should you fail to pilot your own ship, don’t be surprised at what inappropriate port you find yourself docked.” Tom Robbins
Ghost, goblins & gremlins, oh my!! It’s that time of year when those creatures surface for some fun to ‘Trick or Treat’. But when they move in to reside as your constant internal critics – they will adversely affect your mental, emotional and physical domains. That’s no treat!
Every heroine and hero needs to master taming or slaying some form of monster on the road to achieving her/his goals and quests.
These monsters are shape-shifter, and can show up regularly or at the most inopportune times while taking on different forms to blind-side you. Sometimes they are people near and dear to us, other times, they are the toxic strangers judging us from a place of ignorance, but the most insidious of these is the one residing within.
Imagine yourself breaking free of the defeating, limiting, fear based conversations you’ve been having for years advising you to remain safe by hiding under the proverbial bed, instead to venturing out to think in a bigger way, take worthwhile risks, and meet the challenge of new opportunities.
The taming and eventually slaying of all these dragons by silencing them is a skill to master, and with practice becomes second nature.
First, you need to develop awareness. Knowing the situations and patterns that seem to trigger those toxic conversations is a turbo charged arsenal in your toolbox to combat them. <p\>
Next, acknowledge and thank them for wanting to keep you safe. That really is one of their functions, otherwise they may actually be the internalized saboteur echoes from the past tightening their grip as you attempt to change the status quo.
Finally, be vigilant and keep practicing to raise your awareness, and ready response (rehearse the conversations you’ll have) to address them without giving them any power. The more you do this, the better you will get at loosening the grip allowing you to live more fully without the shadows of manipulation from ghosts of old, scaly dragons and distracting gremlins.
Determine where & to whom you are giving up your power & what you need to do to step into it to claim it. To presence your own power, is to claim or reclaim it as you strip any saboteurs of theirs over you!